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How We Break

Navigating the Wear and Tear of Living
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Narrator Vincent Deary

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Length 11 hours 8 minutes
Language English
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An expert, empathetic guide to the science, psychology and physiology of breaking, from the acclaimed author of How We Are
What happens when our minds and bodies are pushed beyond their limits? Vincent Deary is a health psychologist who has spent years helping his patients cope with whatever life has thrown at them. In How We Break, he has written a book for all of us who sometimes feel we have reached our breaking point.

Drawing on clinical case studies, cutting-edge scientific research, intimate personal stories and references from philosophy, literature and film, How We Break offers a consoling new vision of everyday human struggle. The big traumas in life, Deary points out, are relatively rare. More common is when too many things go wrong at once, or we are exposed to prolonged periods of difficulty or precarity. When the world shrinks to nothing but our daily coping, we become unhappy, worried, hopeless, exhausted. In other words, we break. Breaking, he shows us, happens when the same systems that enable us to navigate through life become dysregulated. But if we understand how the wear and tear of life affects us, then we have a better chance of navigating through times of burnout, stress, fatigue and despair.

By equipping us with a better understanding of what happens to us when we're struggling to cope, and making a bold case for the power of rest and recuperation, How We Break helps chart a path through difficult times.
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Vincent Deary is professor of applied health psychology at Northumbria University, where his research focuses on the development of new psychosocial interventions for people with a variety of health complaints, including cancer survivors and fear of falling in older adults. As a clinician he works in the UK's first trans-diagnostic Fatigue Clinic, to help people for whom fatigue is a disabling symptom. He is the author of How We Are.

Vincent Deary is professor of applied health psychology at Northumbria University, where his research focuses on the development of new psychosocial interventions for people with a variety of health complaints, including cancer survivors and fear of falling in older adults. As a clinician he works in the UK's first trans-diagnostic Fatigue Clinic, to help people for whom fatigue is a disabling symptom. He is the author of How We Are.

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Reviews

A lyrical and ultimately uplifting examination of what happens when our minds and bodies are put under extreme stress or suffering Drawing on a wide range of sources about the human experience, Vincent Deary has written a warm and compassionate book about how we hurt and how we heal. A rich and humane work From a deep mine of science, philosophy, art and personal experience, Vincent Deary has produced a treasure of a book. Every page of How We Break gleams with wisdom and insight. Nobody could fail to be enriched by it A particular strength of the book is the way Deary weaves between different schools of thought within psychology, philosophy and religion. The result is not merely a discussion of abstract ideas, but a collection of valuable observations about what it means to be human in the modern world Dearyโ€™s exhilarating new book mixes science, philosophy and memoir to argue that self-acceptance is our best defence against the stress of livingโ€ฆ Dearyโ€™s writing is wise and compassionate, sometimes florid and always interesting โ€“ few writers could jump so nimbly between Proust and RuPaul, neuroscience and the occult. โ€ฆ Dearyโ€™s is the rare book that helps you see the world a little differently The psychologist and researcherโ€™s persuasive inquiry into how lifeโ€™s struggles take their toll is full of hard-won wisdom... There is a rawness to Dearyโ€™s analysis that gives a compelling human edge to his theorising Deary offers a thought experiment that just might be a game-changer In How We Break, the health psychologist Vincent Deary suggests some answers for ยญโ€˜navigating the wear and tear of livingโ€™โ€ฆ This essential self-exploration underlines the deeply humane plea which is the heartbeat of the book: for more self-compassionโ€ฆ There is much wisdom in Dearyโ€™s regret that this society has neglected the idea of convalescenceโ€™ Exhilarating... a lyrical, consoling exploration... It takes guts to recognise that change is called for, and more to follow it through. This book - so long as you don't read it on autopilot - should help Fascinating, profound, wonderfully well-observed... [How We Are] could change lives This is a book that gets your mind whizzing off in lots of directions... It's crammed with ideas. It makes your head spin, in a good way An extraordinary book... There are so many insights and moments of poetry along the way... The book is all the more useful because it is uncomfortable and disturbing; it makes you re-examine your priorities and habits Expand reviews
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