The Covert Narcissist

Summary

DO THE FOLLOWING SYMPTOMS SOUND FAMILIAR?

- Ruined self confidence

- Doubting yourself and your sanity

- Mood swings

- Sleeplessness

- Extreme weight loss or weight gain

- Uncharacteristic jealousy/ insecurity

- Feeling like you don’t know the difference between right and wrong

- Extreme paranoia (being turned into an obsessive detective)

- Endless, repetitive obsessive thinking about your ex

- Constantly trying to find explanations for what has happened

- Feelings of helplessness and despair

- A desire to self isolate

- Feeling desperately misunderstood

- Overwhelming feelings of loss and grief

- Extreme bouts of rage

- An inability to be comfortable with yourself

- Strange dreams

The list goes on….

Covert Narcissists dangle their vulnerability in front of you as bait, just waiting for your good nurturing mothering/fathering instincts to kick in and rescue the poor little lost child they are presenting to you.

But beneath the mask of a shy, vulnerable and “good person” something far more sinister lurks.

And this what makes covert narcissism so damaging and dangerous: the nature of the disorder is such that you are brainwashed into thinking you are dealing with a human being with a morality, perhaps even a “pillar of the community”.

OFT REPEATED MYTHS OF THE INTERNET ABOUT NARCISSISTS :

You are Told: Narcissists are always brash, loud, assertive, flashy and Confident.

The problem is: Coverts are quiet, insecure and passive.

You are Told: Narcissists will never apologise for things they do.

The problem is: Coverts can learn that a quick and TOTAL apology is a really slick way of getting their target to “go back to sleep” if it looks like they are waking up.