How We Keep Each Other Close
A close friendship is one of the most influential and important relationships a human life can contain. Anyone will tell you that! But for all the rosy sentiments surrounding friendship, most people don’t talk much about what it really takes to stay close for the long haul.
If you enjoyed All the Single Ladies, then you’ll love Big Friendship.
“This is one of the most meaningful and thought provoking books I’ve read in a long time. It will forever change how I think about the friendships in my life. I was provided valuable tools to develop and maintain these valuable relationships with greater intent and thoughtfulness. I want to put it into the hands of each of the most significant people that make up my own friendship web along with me sharing how much they mean to me. When I discovered it was written by the friends profiled in Traister’s "All the Single Ladies" who met and connected at a Gossip Girl viewing party, I knew it was for me. I loved the story about their friendship and was curious to see where they were now. The audio book is narrated by Ann and Aminatou and also includes sound clips from various people they interviewed from their book. It was certainly lovely to hear more about their lives and their friendship. Their narration elevated and personalized this reading experience for me. I was unprepared for how much their research and reflections on friendship would resonate for me and challenge me to start taking more conscious steps to actively work on those I cherish the most and wish to have with me until the end of my days. I have spent much time thinking about how I approach friendships in my life and what actions and habits I need to take to enhance and grow the important relationships in my life. It helped me understand why some friendships have never moved beyond the acquaintance level and others remain strong despite distance and time. It is also helping me find long-needed peace in letting go of my disappointment and frustrations regarding friendships that failed without closure or explanation. Although this is primarily a story about female friendships, I think their ideas, information, and reflections are relevant to anyone who wants to be a better friend and develop and maintain meaningful personal relationships with others.”Cori, Bright Side Bookshop
Now two friends, Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman, tell the story of their equally messy and life-affirming Big Friendship in this honest and hilarious book that chronicles their first decade in one another’s lives. As the hosts of the hit podcast Call Your Girlfriend, they’ve become known for frank and intimate conversations. In this book, they bring that energy to their own friendship—its joys and its pitfalls.
Aminatou and Ann define Big Friendship as a strong, significant bond that transcends life phases, geographical locations, and emotional shifts. And they should know: the two have had moments of charmed bliss and deep frustration, of profound connection and gut-wrenching alienation. They have weathered life-threatening health scares, getting fired from their dream jobs, and one unfortunate Thanksgiving dinner eaten in a car in a parking lot in Rancho Cucamonga. Through interviews with friends and experts, they have come to understand that their struggles are not unique. And that the most important part of a Big Friendship is making the decision to invest in one another again and again.
An inspiring and entertaining testament to the power of society’s most underappreciated relationship, Big Friendship will invite you to think about how your own bonds are formed, challenged, and preserved. It is a call to value your friendships in all of their complexity. Actively choose them. And, sometimes, fight for them.
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